Friday, November 04, 2005

How to contact me

I have posted an email address but I guess that post is buried deep within this blog so most people do not see it!

Yes you can still reach me at shomernegiah at yahoo dot com. I read every email that goes to that address, but remind you all that I almost never answer.

One of these days I will set up a gmail account since I think that gmail does not report the IP address of the sender. I have to investigate that more but if it is true then I will set that up and then I will start answering emails.

You can also contact me by leaving a comment on the blog but then of course it is not private.

I am sorry I do not have a better system but in addition to wanting to maintain my privacy I also do not want the emails to start taking over my life, as they would if I felt I had to respond to them all.

Thank you to everyone who emails me and leaves comments.

PS Yes I am still dating the man you are all wondering about. We are having our ups and downs. When there is something to tell you one way or another I will post it.

34 Comments:

Anonymous annabel lee said...

Yay, I'm glad you're still dating the gentleman from before. I hope it's still going well. Let us know if you need a gmail "invitation" - I'm sure many of us could set you up. Shabbat Shalom!

11/04/2005 10:37:00 AM  
Blogger ClooJew said...

I was not aware that an email address could, lulei demistafina, give away your identity. How does that work?

I see that you spell out ("at yahoo dot com") your email. What is that for?

These questions are not necesarily for NJG but for any tech-savvy reader to answer as well.

11/04/2005 12:50:00 PM  
Blogger Needsabetterjob said...

The headers can contain information regarding NJG's IP Address. This could be used to indicate which town she is from, if her ISP is local like that. Thus, if there is a small frum community in this particular town, it might be possible to figure out her identity.
She could use a proxy server this would alter her PC's IP address to the outside world. But she would have to test this extensively and may not want to bother. The safest approach would be to use an internet cafe, but this is an expense and absurd, unless people would offer to pay a monthly fee or something to offset this expense...

Spelling it out like that is simply cuz she's cool.

11/04/2005 01:31:00 PM  
Anonymous actually.... said...

spelling it out like that is to avoid spammers -- they pick out email addresses that are easily identified by things like "@yahoo"

11/04/2005 02:15:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's unlikely yahoo or gmail would report your ip. Gmail is good and what I use but if yahoo is what you have, it's probably a good idea to stick with it. I hear they're unrolling a new gmail-killer interface so you might want to stick it out.

11/04/2005 11:36:00 PM  
Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

Yahoo does report ips. Careful.

11/05/2005 05:20:00 PM  
Blogger Semgirl said...

If privacy is of utmost importance, I recomend www.hushmail.com . Very easy to set up, no invite required, and they use the highest level of civilian encryption.

I am very happy to hear that you are still seeing him, sincerely hope that it works out for you soon.

11/05/2005 06:45:00 PM  
Blogger Needsabetterjob said...

Yeah but Hushmail is best when both are on Hushmail. She could ask people to take a Hushmail account if they want to email w/ her, that is not so absurd.

I think tho that she is going to be concerned about her privacy no matter what, unless using a public place. There's always the library.

11/05/2005 11:50:00 PM  
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11/06/2005 11:02:00 AM  
Blogger ClooJew said...

Thanks all (especially you NABJ) for, lulei demistafina, a primer in all that techie stuff that I never bothered to learn.

Even Semgirl weighed in--and she's from Lakewood! LOL

11/06/2005 11:46:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey NJG

You seem to be getting some comment spam - you can get rid of this by going to your blogger comments settings, and turning word verification on. Just a suggestion as it may save you time instead of having to delete annoying comments. Keep Well.

11/06/2005 04:29:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You can just create an e-mail address with "shomer" as your fist name and "negiah" as your last name - then the e-mail will say it is from "Shomer Negiah" (although that's not the case any more :)

11/06/2005 06:33:00 PM  
Anonymous Another Nice Jewish Boy said...

NJG, did you see Grey's Anatomy tonight? In a "ripped from the Shomer Negiah blog" plot line, there was a scene where a hot 18 year old wheelchair bound patient complains to Alex (one of the doctors) about never having been kissed. After she keeps begging him to kiss her, he bends down as if he's about to, and instead tells her that she's got to wait for someone she really loves to make it worthwhile...

11/07/2005 12:09:00 AM  
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11/07/2005 09:00:00 AM  
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11/08/2005 01:43:00 AM  
Blogger Mia said...

hi there, we just tried it out and gmail is encrypting the IP address.

good luck with the boy and your life. I will check back for news and hope to some good ones soon.

Take good care,
Mia

11/08/2005 04:49:00 PM  
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11/08/2005 06:51:00 PM  
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11/09/2005 04:50:00 AM  
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11/10/2005 09:52:00 PM  
Blogger Ittay said...

Good to read you are still dating your gentleman friend. Has he also been shomer negai until this relationship? I’m interested in the male perspective(if you don’t mind sharing) of his first kiss with a shomer negia girl. Keep smiling

11/12/2005 03:04:00 AM  
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11/14/2005 10:49:00 AM  
Blogger The First Date Chick said...

Congrats on still dating! I hope you are enjoying many more ups than downs. Of course, we need the downs to appreciate the ups...straight lines are dull =)

Good luck!

11/15/2005 03:40:00 PM  
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11/16/2005 04:12:00 AM  
Blogger Semgirl said...

Anon afraid you can make such sweeping statements anonymously. At least be man enuf to put a website and a phone number.. I dont know a single Rov who holds like that..

11/17/2005 12:28:00 AM  
Blogger Nice Jewish Guy said...

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11/17/2005 09:02:00 PM  
Blogger Nice Jewish Guy said...

Best of luck to you!

11/20/2005 12:57:00 PM  
Blogger chuck said...

wow heavy stuff
i just wanted to you got guts
second, its worth it , being sn of course
my wife and i agree that all our friends whom are happily married were all SN all the way
and those who (whom?) fooled around before are misrable now
I ...we think it has something to do with mutual respect
anyway hang in there
the harder it is the more you'll appreciate the effort later

11/22/2005 07:17:00 PM  
Blogger Needsabetterjob said...

I suppose no news is good news? It's been a while since you posted anything, what is the status of your relationship now? If you are having any problems, you know that you can always discuss w/ us, your loyal fans.

11/23/2005 12:41:00 PM  
Anonymous They thought I was...but I wasn't! said...

Chuck -- You and your wife sound completely clueless about what generates happiness in a relationship.

First, how do you know who is/was SN and who wasn't? Claiming that "you can just tell" is just naive.

And besides, how do you know the source of joy or misery in someone else's marriage. Do you sleep in their bedrooms? Do a wide swath of miserable or happy couples keep detailed journals about their marriages and turn them over to you? Do you have nevuah? Are you a Peeping Tom? How in the world do you make such a silly, shallow observation?

I'll be generous and say your observation about other people's lives is naive and flawed.

11/23/2005 01:52:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

good to hear you're still seeing this guy, hope it goes well for you two. Your readers are rooting for you!

11/23/2005 07:43:00 PM  
Blogger chuck said...

dear
They thought I was...but I wasn't!

you can fool some of the people all the time .....you know how that goes

true you can get away with things, but it all comes out in the end
my wife and i are over 30
we've seen the "model" couples, the ones everybody thought were perfect, get divorced
we've seen the couples that spat still married with good kids (good kids are an usual indication of a good marriage)
you sound like you're 22 max, I'd venture to say more likely in your late teens
sorry but you have no authentic source for your info, toilet stall rumors do not amount to anything!

talk to me in 10 years from now

11/27/2005 02:05:00 PM  
Anonymous They thought I was...but I wasn't! said...

"we've seen the "model" couples, the ones everybody thought were perfect, get divorced"

What in the world does this have to do with Shomer negiah?

"we've seen the couples that spat still married with good kids (good kids are an usual indication of a good marriage)"

ditto!!!

"true you can get away with things, but it all comes out in the end"

What are you even talking about??

"you sound like you're 22 max, I'd venture to say more likely in your late teens"

Even if I'm six years old, you still have yet to make a valid point that would imply you know anything about other people's relationships and what constitutes good and bad relationships.

11/28/2005 03:18:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's really hard to fight the urges. therefore, i choose not to be shomer negia. its not as if i go sleeping around or anything- but if i wanted to, i could.

12/19/2005 10:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Pisau Karet said...

Good luck!

10/12/2012 01:38:00 AM  

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